Divorce effects on children
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Description
One of the project that was done during studies was called "Divorce effects on children".
Divorce is a harsh topic to be chosen but it was one of the topics I had been thinking for a while.
We were tasked to do a write-up for the chosen topic. Next, after data collecting we are required to create an info-graphic to show our findings on our topics. Lastly, we are needed to create an envision piece that shows the final outcome of the project in regarding to the topic itself.
Wider and Specific write-up
Wider context
Divorce, a topic that everyone rarely talks at a young age, but only being mentioned after marriage. How does one partner decide to part ways with their partner. The reason may be vary but there are many factors about why people wanted to divorce. Divorce means, when partners who are legally married choose to separate on mutual terms. Married couple are found a lot of problems and couldn’t be solved, following on with more arguments that leads to divorcing with each other. This topic will emphasize more to the causes of divorce. Many cause and effect will lead to heavy consequences and will definitely lead to divorce. Many factors to be included in this which according to Gabbi Shaw (2019, January 31), “While the divorce rate is declining, it is still relatively common. Cheating, fighting, and a lack of commitment were all top reasons”. Men and women do have its respective reason that it happened but what could have made them do the wrong decisions during that period of marriage. Following on with “How will it affect the children after divorcing”, children always ask questions, whether bad or good, but when it comes to divorce, they are clueless but the children can witness what is happening. And they will question themselves about why they are separated. A source from this website (Lyness, D, January 2015) “Whether your kids express fear, worry, or relief about your separation and divorce, they'll want to know how their own day-to-day lives might change”. Talking to the children will help a lot to understand everything about divorce marriages, and lastly, “ How to reduce the children’s emotional toll after divorcing. Children often put the blame on themselves due to overthinking about their parents divorce issue. And plus the transitioning of not having another parent staying with you will be a new experience for the child.
Wider context
Firstly, what are the causes of divorce. Unhappy marriage. Over the years, a lot of couples always face one of the biggest problems of their relationship, which are trust issues.Trust is a sacred action to majority of the couples. According to Brian Bayati (2016) “Trust can feel safe and secure”. Breaking a trust is bad but how did one partner make this decision that regrettably once its been done. By that one of the problems is having an affair with another partner, who might be someone else’s partner? How did it really so happened that the partner just went off finding another love? One of it are unhealthy habit. By means of unhealthy habit is Kimanzi Constable(2017) “Mismanaging your money”. Money issues is one of the biggest reasons why the partner decides to find another partner, could be have more money or better money management. Example, one of your partner is in a heavy debt because of gambling, spending on shopping, or etc. Following with Kristine Fellizar(2019), venting about your relationship. Partner who always spoke about their own personal relationship to other people does indicate that they are unhappy about their own partner. Example, a friend of mine always expressing his negative emotion about his partner.
Secondly, how does divorce affects the children during childhood.. Amy Morin (2019), has mentioned ” The first year after divorce is the toughest”. The changes of the environment and routine does affect them as the children only have one half of the parent. Example, one child has been going through a tough time changing his routine due to different arrangement in the children’s lifestyle. To further elaborate on this, children always see parents as a pair, but during the divorce phase, the child will think to themselves. But generally, it themselves wouldn’t understand it because they were young. Furthermore, during this stage, it may increase the behavior issues. According to Patrick F. Fagan (n.d.) “Children of divorced or separated parents exhibit increased behavioral problems and marital conflict that accompanies parents’ divorce places the child’s social competence at risk”. Growing up in this situation is tough, due to lack of love from the other parent. While they are too busy handling their own personal life, they have forgotten us along the way.
Thirdly, how to reduce emotional toll on children during divorce. Children in this state will be actually be anxious, sad, or even happy about it. But normally the majority of the children will be sad because they might not even see the other parent anymore. According to Amy Morin (2019) “ Parents play a major role in how children adjust to a divorce”. With this, there are a few solutions to this issue, which are parents are needed to communicate with each other instead of pointing fingers to each other. Mainly its because if one problem occurs, they will point at each other instead of solving the issues. Moving on, make the children feel like they are well secure and safe. The fear of being abandoned is real as a child. Parents could just leave us one day without us knowing and it is a scary feeling.
To conclude this research, Divorce is something that people still disregard, because it has never happened to them yet. But to this my suggestion is that each individual needs to be open minded in terms of this topic, while the child does not know what is divorce. Do enlightened them with facts and reason so that they do not have a negative view about this topic.
REFERENCE
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Shaw, G. (2019, January 31). These are the 11 most common reasons people get divorced, ranked. Retrieved from https://www.businessinsider.my/why-people-get-divorced-2019-1/
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Lyness, D. (2015, January 15). Helping Your Child Through a Divorce. Retrieved from https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/help-child-divorce.html
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http://marripedia.org/effects.of.divorce.on.children.s.behavior
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The Psychological Effects of Divorce on Children. (2017, May 22). Retrieved from https://www.verywellfamily.com/psychological-effects-of-divorce-on-kids-4140170
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7 Surprising Habits That Lead To Divorce, According To Science. (2019, February 27). Retrieved from https://www.bustle.com/p/7-surprising-habits-that-lead-to-divorce-according-to-science-16294789
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Constable, K. (2017, December 7). 6 Unhealthy Habits That Lead to Divorce. Retrieved from https://www.huffpost.com/entry/6-unhealthy-habits-that-l_b_7261746
Sketches for infographic
Infographic
The context of the info-graphic is that the cake represent the child itself and the wordings on the cake are icing. The words on the cake are words that parent's tell this to the children and it affects them clearly.
Envision piece (sketches)
Envision piece (process)